While I agree that going back to the basics with family life is certainly a good direction to go, I can't agree with everything you said.
I am a single parent and not by choice. I once had a nuclear family but it exploded and my job was to pick up in the aftermath. My kids have cell phones, not because they are status symbols but because I like to know where they are at all times while still allowing them freedom to discover the world. (And might I point out they are teenagers, not young children.)
I also frequently take their friends out to eat when we go or feed a house full when they are there at dinner time. I'd rather the kids be comfortable and happy to be at my house, at least I know where they are and they aren't having to always escape my rules to visit their friends. They can spend quality time with Mom and their sibling and still have time to visit with their friends. As a bonus, I know my kids' friends fairly well. In fact, I know quite a bit more than some of their parents probably do. I think most of it boils down to the fact that I remember being a kid and try to empathize with their struggles. If they really want to eat dinner in front of the TV, I let them. By doing so, I find they request formal dinner at the table and are the ones to start the conversations about serious issues affecting them today and tomorrow.
Furthermore, I sometimes let my human slip with them. I don't blow up and ground them for every offense without listening to the reason. Sure, my BS detector goes off sometimes and I call them on it, but for the most part I give them respect and the benefit of the doubt as well as apologizing when I've been in the wrong. I think the worst thing possible to say to a child is "Because I said so." We know it is because we said so but to an rebellious teenager that's an open dare to do the opposite.
Perhaps this wasn't quite what you meant but I just find that today's kids are so disconnected with some of their parents. Parenting is hard but you need a mutual respect, regardless of age, because after all, they pick your nursing home.